When I was a about 9 my family moved from North Baltimore to the cornfields of Woodbine, Maryland.
So I went from living in a row house in the city to Future Farmer country. Nothing against Future Farmers, but it was a bit of a shock. Not only that, I was not the skinniest kid on the block and my introverted nature kept me from exploring and making new friends. I was an only-kid to boot.
My antisocial behavior only got worse as my weight increased. And by middle school I was an extremely quiet, overweight, insecure kid who always hid at the first sign of trouble and always let people get to me.
Me not speak
I wasn’t exactly bullied, but I was made fun of, a lot. Kids are good at that. I didn’t fire back or easily shake off negative comments. I endured and hid in my room. This was how I dealt with rejection, pain, insecurity. I’m not kidding when I say … I didn’t. Talk. To. Anybody.
It got better. In high school I was in the band, played football and lacrosse, but never, ever felt like I was “in” with anybody. I was always the big, quiet guy. I eventually lost the weight, but it’s taken a while to lose the antisocial behavior.
Are You A Late bloomer?
I am. Even though I’m a 10,000-times better than I was at 18 or 20, or even 30, I carry a bit of IT with me to this day. I’m a member of toastmasters. I’ve run meetings, emceed events, have a successful business (which does require some social skills), and speak up now more than ever. But, oh man it’s taken me a while.
As I am now embracing social media (read The Internet) I’m certainly no longer afraid. I truly love the sense of community here and honestly have met some of the nicest people ever just by commenting on their blogs. It is a much different place than I expected. To me this is an adventure, and honestly something I never thought I’d be pursuing – even as close as four months ago – but here I am with my first blog post.
I guess the point is I’m just discovering how to truly be social. To be honest, real, and transparent. Online. Yikes! According to Bill Dorman, it is the internet so nobody is really paying attention anyway, right? So what the heck, I’ll let ‘er rip.
Thanks to all my online friends who have helped me along the way! All critiques are welcomed. If something needs to be changed here, please let me know!
How good are your social skills now? How were they back then?
Has this online world brought out a new you or changed you in any way?
Also, let this late bloomer know if he needs to change anything about this site. Tagline, colors, plugins. You name it!
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