I’ll try and explain.
I started my business in 1995, but I’ve only broken free from my self-imposed shackles in the past 5-7 years, really.
Before that, I was uncommunicative, uninvolved, bitter and insecure.
I hate labels, but sometimes I have to use them to convey a story.
Can you relate?
Less than two years after my first son was born, my wife persuaded me to open my own business.
We had no money, but she had faith and I had determination.
Nothing in the world motivates you like a toddler in the house, a new business and a client list of zero.
And no job to fall back on.
Yet, no matter how much I progressed and how many clients I acquired, IT didn’t feel quite right and never has.
Know what I mean?
People often say you never change. I’ve heard them say this myself. Please save that load of crap for the hay wagon, because that’s what it is.
People do change. All. The. Time.
And that’s the beauty of it all, really.
Since 1995 I’ve been making a slow and steady climb, but it’s not until fairly recently that I finally got IT.
I always thought that hard work and determination were the keys to success. Work, then relax. Extended periods of drudgery followed by shorts burst of enjoyment.
We were taught this in school, by our parents. At least I was, but this certainly isn’t the key to an enriching life. I enjoy hard work but am no fan of a passionless struggle.
So I guess my question to you is how do you make your life enriching? How do you create an environment that is conducive to work and enjoyment at the same time? Is this possible?
In my youth I lived in a constant state of unease and only found solace on my own deserted island. A disconnected, lonely place where I perfected the art of dreaming on a daily basis.
This followed me into adulthood, where the dreams disappeared, but the isolation and unease remained.
I only started to make some real changes around the age of 40. For me, the keys were embracing discomfort, learning to deal with uncertainty and taming my active lizard brain. Getting out of my head was key, as I could no longer live with the torturous chatter.
And right now? I’m not slowing down. In fact I’m more excited about life than every before.
I guess I’ve kinda, sorta found my IT.
Enriching experiences come from taking on discomfort.
Breaking free of those self-imposed chains can be the most liberating feeling on earth.
And discovering that creativity that resides deep inside you can be like an exploding fireball of passion that renews your zest for life.
How about you?
Why do you do IT every day? And how does it make you feel?
Are you making up for lost time or have you been in this most excellent state for a while?
That tormenting mental noise? I kicked it to the curb. Have you?
Right now, I’m feeling IT big time. How about you?
If not, think long and hard about your limiting beliefs and negative self-talk. It can be deafening and potentially life-destroying.
Do you feel like you’ve arrived?
If not, what do you think is holding you back?
And, why do you do “it” every day?