I excelled at this for years and it has something to do with the “dip.”
This Seth Godin term describes that juncture where the romance has worn off. Your enterprise is past the tail wagging stage and it’s time to plow forward or call it quits.
I’ll just call it a Grand Master Funk.
It’s when you grasp how lengthy, plodding and tough that climb to the top can be. This realization often kills our spirit and we want to throw in the towel.
A general malaise sets in.
The enchantment is gone and you see nothing but work ahead.
Infatuation meets familiarity and the once passionate becomes routine.
Talk about a convenient time to say, “oh well, I tried but it was just too much.”
“Just too much.” Hmmm. Where you at with that, huh brah?
You feelin’ kinda stuck?
Has the passion died?
Where in the hell did the music go?
You know? That infectious tune inside your head that said “never give up?”
What happened to NEVER GIVE UP! Huh?
It doesn’t have to be this way. Do you want to know why?
Because you have the power inside you.
Damn straight you do! And don’t ever think you don’t.
This moment of stagnation is an opportunity.
Because this is when you discover how strong, creative and innovative you are.
Sure, sometimes quitting is the best thing you can do (so says Seth), but this is about the people who want to push through and make something great.
Do you want to push through and see that big, fat dream come true?
Then get used to the fact that it’s a long, slow journey.
And become familiar with the term, “resistance.” Steven Pressfield* coined it. It’s when dread and apprehension take over. Indecision and self-sabotage rule the day and keep you from your grand aspirations.
As he put is so well:
“Resistance is more like the pain-in-the-ass schoolteacher who won’t let us climb the tree in the playground.
But the urge to climb came first.” … Damn I love that Pressfield.
And you know what?
That sure-fire, energy-sucking, pain-in-the-ass always makes an appearance during your little funk.
So get familiar with this term and don’t forget that your dream, passion, or crazy good feeling came first.
That, my friend is love. Big love and that will help carry you through the funk.
As the Red Head would say, bitch slap that funk and get back to work!
If you need a little help, try these fun exercises:
1. Learn to embrace discomfort
Go out and do the things you want to do, even if you fear them. Do this often young Jedi and it will tame the fear response deep within.
And remember this: Your primal lizard brain doesn’t like dreams. Please don’t let it dominate your life, so learn to push through by embracing uncomfortable situations one day at a time.
2. Change your perspective
You alone have the power to change your outlook from negative to positive. Well, duh! Thanks master of the obvious.
But do step back and observe. Think about the past few days, weeks. Have you turned a great day into a crap day?
So please change that attitude first thing in the morning.
If you focus on problems you might open a Pandora’s box of needless pain. If you focus on opportunities, well, I think you know the rest.
And c’mon, is it really that bad? Really?
First world problems are a bitch, huh? Well, some people in Liberia or Afghanistan might want to talk to you about real problems.
This all comes down to fear. Work to tame it, daily. Or better yet, drop-kick that mother.
Think of this “dip” as an opportunity. Kick fear to the curb and embrace Love. I know you love a challenge and have some lofty goals.
So don’t let the nasty old funk kill your spirit.
It’s zero hour, so crank it up and get busy. Sorry, I’m a sucker for cheesy, motivational movie vignettes. I bet you are too.
Go on, you can do it. Fists in the air.
On the way to making IT happen?
Are you feeling stuck in the mud?
What gets you off the mat and ready to take on the day?